A friend of mine has this legitimately delightful habit of gently (ahem) correcting people who are exhibiting negative self-talk. “Are you saying mean things to my friend Erin?” And she’s right, we shouldn’t do that sort of thing to ourselves. It’s not helpful and often just makes things worse. The most important thing here though is that she listens and then offers this support immediately. It’s another way to tell someone you love them without using that word. Food for thought for us all I suspect.
My plant area in the sunroom was feeling Very Cramped, but since there are kitties in the house I have to be careful with what’s where not only because they are destructive little fuckers, but also because some plants are toxic to them. Lancelot helped me select and then assemble this very modular solution that fits in the space on top of the cabinet where the plants had been living. There are no new plants here they’re just arranged differently. I think everyone will be getting better light now and it certainly doesn’t seem as cramped. L even commented that the whole room feels different now.
I met with my psychiatrist last week and it went very well. She agrees that being off the Lithium seems to be going quite nicely. She also agreed with my thought that I might have been a tiny bit overmedicated. However, the entire support network has rightly been concerned about me not being medicated enough for a hell of a long time, so better safe than sorry.
I’ll meet with her again at the end of November and, assuming things are still smooth, we’ll talk about possibly lowering the dose of one of my other medications.
This is a paraphrase from something I said to someone last week, and it’s utter truth: If you had told me in 2006 that a time would come when my life would feel “normal” and I would be “happy” I would have laughed and called bull shit. But here I am. A mental health diagnosis is not a life sentence, it’s a call to arms.
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I’m so happy to hear it going so well for you now, Erin. It’s been a long time coming and you have managed to put in new neural pathways in your brain so less medication can be a result. Not everyone would work as hard as you have to achieve a good quality of life. I love your friends way of pointing out negative self talk. I’m going to keep that in mind. Say nice things to yourself now. You deserve that.
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It has indeed been hard work, but definitely worth it. I’m remembering now that one of my therapists told me that we should always strive to treat ourselves as we would our dearest friends. Seems like sound advice.
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Absolutely sound advice. I would never talk to a friend the way I talk to myself. You have done well over these years. Introspection is not a selfish thing. It’s helpful to everyone around you.